As we grow up, we are constantly bombarded with phrases like, "Keep it up!" or "Give it your all!" and, "Don't give up!". This woman appears to have taken the advice literally. Are we better off ignoring it or should we follow her example?
I mean, if you loved someone and they left you, just how far would you go to get them back before calling it a day? And if you were on the receiving end, just how much would you put up before calling in the professionals - whether the police or the psychiatrists?
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ReplyDeleteWhat a story! It seems impossible that this woman from "The Hague" could have phoned her ex-lover so many times... Did she think she would win him back by harassing him? I mean, one thing is to not give up and keep trying...but to what extent? And besides, couldn't she at least try to fall in love again?
On the other hand, how could the man let this carry on for an entire year? If it were me, I would have gone straight to the police on the first week...
If I found myself in the situation where my lover left me, I would probably call him a couple of times, cry into my pillow for two weeks in the company of hot cups of cocoa, and then would have simply moved on. You can always fall in love again, can't you?
On the other hand, if it were me recieving those daunting phone calls I would put an end to it by meeting up with my ex-lover to explain the situation. I would then warn him: "If you keep trying to contact me, I will call the police". I mean, really! How bad can it get?
By the way, that was Alexia Faus writing.
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ReplyDeleteI have decided to comment on this news paper article because I have found it amazing that a 42 year-old woman would turn up to be so crazy in love of his ex-boyfriend although this one does not agree that they have been dating for a couple of moths.
From my point of view, I clearly approve that what this desperate woman has being doing during a whole year is absolutely ridiculous but I suppose that the most obvious reason would be that she has a mental problem or pathology. Calling every 8,1 minutes, which is equivalent to 178 times per day, is not normal especially in an old enough lady. It is said that this cases are most common in adolescents and youngsters. Besides the defender is 62 year-old and he is married, I feel pity him…
If this whole situation were to happen to me, I would not have waited more than a month of constant annoying. The first thing I would have done was pick the phone and answer politely saying that you don’t want anything type of relationship with him and if he continued calling I would easily get my telephone number changed. If another month passes and I would still be receiving phone calls and messages I would call both the police department to request a restraining order and the psychiatrist to try and make him realise how atrocious this situation has ended up.
Going to the question; as you can see I’m totally against this example of tormenting your ex-lover by bombing phone calls but I would not either go to the other side of the situation or ignore him, because in my opinion any extreme is good. Why would some want to forget everything the couple has gone through just because they’re not together? They can still be friends, can’t they?
On the other hand, there is the situation of what to do if you really want your lover back. I would rather say it is a big challenge to do so. Firstly, I would try and meet with him just to have a chat and clear any misunderstanding. I think that is the only way to get him back, although it is easy to say, it is not simple to achieve what you aim for.
Alexia, I totally agree with you, she could have perfectly fallen in love into someone else. I bet that did not occurred to her because she was too in love with him!
Nicole Pattje
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ReplyDeleteI agree with both Nicole and Alexia!
Firstly the man was very rude, the women went over the top with all the phone calls, but despite this the man should have answered and politely said he didn’t want anything to do with her.
She however was a bit childish from my point of view. If the man didn’t answer her, she should have seen that there was no point on trying after the first 50 calls. I thing this is because if he isn’t interested he is the one who looses his chances of being with a nice girl and she should have realised that he was not worthy. She stooped very low calling all those times to a man, which from my point of view wasn’t worthwhile.
Be careful with who you fall in love!!!
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ReplyDeleteI can't believe how this women could call his ex-lover so many times in a day for a whole year, it's really sad seeing how people can do this kind of things.
I really think that she has a big problem and she has to receive medical treatment, because it isn't normal.
The man hasn't acted very good towards this situation neither, and has part of the fault because he should have done something before, or talked to her to clear all the situation, besides the women doesn't show a lot of intelligence because she could have tried again with him and calling so many times only made it worse.
Claudia Samsó
I totally agree with all the points of veiw said before.
ReplyDeleteA year is a very long time. Although it passes quickly, 365 days are a lot, and many things can occur in that period of time.
From this, I can say that I think that the man still loved the women, but he didn't had the guts to say it. I think this because no rational person lets someone call you so many times unless you still care for them.
I also think that this woman is obsessive with her ex-boyfriend, because the amount of times that she phoned him is not as far near as a normal amount of calls to all the constant phone calls a person does.
Wow... Isn't that some kind of a felony? If I was him, I would have filed for a restraining order long ago! But you have to give it to her, the woman is persistent!
ReplyDeleteBy not doing anything to stop her, the man is showing that he doesn't mind the calls, as if he's actually reveling in the attention he's getting! It seems despicable, stringing someone along like that.
As other people have said, she could have quite easily fallen in love again, and her friends and family should be helping her to let go of her past and to focus on what lies ahead.
Jai Dadlani
It isn’t a matter of age, sex or social status, when it comes to love we all become a little crazy. Human beings are considered to be rational but love turns our world upside down. We sometimes lose our pride and self-esteem, and as we can see in this case, our common sense. No one can deny that this woman became insane, she threw away a whole year of her life. I think this is sad. It is obvious that she needed help, professional help of course since I am sure that people around her had to realize that something was wrong with her and tried to help her, or so I want to believe.
ReplyDeleteI don’t think that because of doing crazy things for love you should always ask for professional help, but when these crazy things interfere with your normal life during a long period of time, and calling 178 times a day during one year is the case, when you get stuck on an old relationship unable to go on, it is time to call a psychologist.
There is just one thing I can’t understand: why didn’t this man change his telephone number?